PLEASE make self-care a priority in your life, BEFORE IT HURTS.

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How not taking care of yourself affects others around you.

I’m writing this post because I feel taking care of yourself is so important. I’ve visually seen what happens when people don’t take care of themselves.

  • When they don’t take time to internalize their emotions.
  • When don’t express their true emotions.
  • When don’t take the time to chase their dreams and do what fulfils them.
  • When don’t take the time to create solutions for their problems.
  • When don’t take time, solve problems together with their partners.

To give you an example.

There was one instance where, a distant relative wouldn’t have a very good day at work (or at least, that what I think might have been the trigger).

Instead of introspecting, talking about it, reaching a solution and taking care of themselves first.

They kept feeding that anger internally. All of that pent-up frustration led to them verbally abusing their very own children for virtually no reason.

To children, harsh words can cut like a knife. So please be careful. Creating emotional wounds that can stay with them for a lifetime.

Nobody deserves that. I can say this because i was one of those children.

They should be the last people to be taking your anger out on.

Wait, Let me correct that,

They should never be the people to take your anger out on

The problem would have been easily solved if they just had an honest conversation with someone they trust about their feelings. Making an effort to reach to some kind of solution to their issue.

Before speaking to children, it’s important to be emotionally stable.

This really made it clear to me that, taking care of yourself can benefit others too, and not just yourself.

When you have resolved your internal conflict, and are able to be at peace. We are able to share that same peace with those around us.

Positive energy is contagious.

If you’re upset, down, frustrated or just not feeling yourself today.

  • Talk to someone that you trust.
  • Punch a bag / pillow.
  • Workout.
  • Write it down.
  • Talk to that person causing your anger, resolve it or make amends.
  • Meditate.

Try as hard as you can to solve that hurt. If you don’t, others will get affected by what your words and actions, knowingly or unknowingly.

While I’m at it, here’s some research about how anger affects us.

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According to an article i recently read on the effects of anger on the brain and the body by La Velle Hendricks, Sam Bore, Dean Aslinia and Guy morris.

I found out that:

Anger comes from the reptilian part of our body known as the amygdala, an almond shaped structure. We can locate it just above the hypothalamus.

effects of anger on the brain and the body

More over,

Anger can produce cortisol. Too much cortisol in the body can cause an imbalance in blood sugar; it can suppress thyroid function, and decrease bone density.

effects of anger on the brain and the body

This can prove that too much anger isn’t good for us, psychologically and physiologically.

It should be a strong enough reason to take care of ourselves first.

I know that we all get anger and life isn’t always easy, it’s full of obstacles. At the same time, we can’t let life constantly produce negative emotions in our minds.

Sometimes all it takes is a deep breath, it’s enough to dismantle negative emotions.

It heals our mind, body and soul, making this journey of life that much smoother.

Simple and effective ways to take care of yourself, (for busy people):


Some upbeat or rock music can help vent out that tension and anger a little. Eminem is my personal favourite. Perfect for commuting.

A hot shower / bath:

Warm water is great for relaxing our muscles, this in turn impact our mental state too. So relaxing in fact that it’ll put you to sleep. Essential oils can also be calming.


You’ll be surprise how much tension our muscles hold, releasing them will make is feel lighter and mentally calmer. A 5–10-minute session is more than enough.

A cup of coffee:

Ever had a cup of coffee and instantly felt calmer, happier and a feeling like everything is going to be ok? I get that every time i have a Starbucks.

A sweet treat:

Chocolate can release endorphins, give us that feeling of euphoria. Try not to go too overboard with it though. This holds true for any sweet treat. There are plenty of healthy sweet treat out there, find one that suits you.

Play with your children:

There’s nothing like playing with a baby, i mean, how it could possibly get angry looking at this

Baby smiling at the camera

Video game:

Great for distracting yourself. However, do be careful because it can get addicting and could also contribute to frustration and anger in some ways. (i know this to be true for FIFA).

Massage tools to release physiological tension:

This is amazing, especially if you’re alone, you can get one at an affordable price on Amazon, and they can last quite a long time too if taken care of.

Watch TV:

Just not the news, it tends to be filled with quite a lot of negativity and unnecessary drama.

Have a nap:

Even if it’s just for 10 minutes, you’ll be amazed by how calm you feel. You could set an alarm. Having a short nap between work sessions can also make you a little more productive.

Sit in silence:

This can be powerful, especially for releasing emotions. Introspect with ourselves regularly not only helps to clear difficult emotions, but also helps us question what we’re doing in life and how we’d like to go about changing certain things. I like to do this with a warm cup of Yerba maté tea.

These are just a few ideas that came to mind when thinking about this.

They’re simple and basic.

Sometimes, simple is all we need to help us feel better. Simple can solve the problem just fine.

I know that you might have had a difficult day, but please make some time to take care of yourself first. All because you deserve it.

More so, if you take care of yourself. You’ll be able to serve others and truly give them the treatment they deserve.

Now go and do something that fills your soul up with love and happiness.

Please do leave some feedback too, I’m always trying to improve my writing as much as I can.

So let me know what you think about the post.

By Kunaal Bakrania

An individual passionate about developing mental and emotional resilience in daily life. Through my experience and knowledge, I'm on a mission to help others cultivate strength within themselves and create a life of true fulfilment.

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